To Marry or Not To... Part 3

I had to go back in search of a blog I had written long time back on marrying the person you love.

I had written about 'To Marry Or Not To.. 2' on the 24th October, 2010.

Its about the same girl who remains unmarried to-date, whereas the boy got married and lives happily with his wife just next door.

I have been home for a couple of days getting a break from office. These two days were stressful as I could hear such outbursts from this depressed girl. She was fighting with her mother, father, her brother and his wife. The words she used were downright crass for all her close ones - the reason - they have all stopped her from getting married to her choice of man because he din't belong to their caste. I thought someone might call in the police to avoid any untoward incident as a result of all this free-for-all with so much banging of doors.

If the girl had married her man, despite whatever the family would have gone through, she may have been settled in her life.
The family ensured she din't go out un-escorted and the girl also din't have enough courage to walk out of her home to be with her man.

She is not allowed to go out much less work at a job. She is not allowed to walk around our complex. All this has made her life so miserable. She watches TV all day long. eats, sleeps and fights when she is upset about her life. Wonder whose victory is this and over whom?

How will they ever solve this perpetual problem. For now, they have packed her off with a relative for a few days but how long can this highly distressed girl remain in others' houses? One day she will come back home to the same story.

Its upsetting and truly disturbing. We are, yet we are not, part of it all.

Mahalakshmi.

'Temper Is Precious, Don't Lose It'

Each one of us is sensitive to sounds that we hear day in and day out.
Most of us can't tolerate high decibels in others.

If people living in houses seldom make loud noises it means they live in a peaceful state of mind. More than that they respect each other very much to take care not to bang doors or make big noises deliberately.

We find much banging of doors, the fridge door, the dropping of vessels and plates from a height to make loud noises. It is like sending out a very nasty message to those living in that house that this person is angry with someone or something. If these occur every now and then it indicates a serious ailment of the mind. If it is done deliberately everyday then someone needs to accompany that person for an urgent check-up.

What does one convey or want to convey through such loud noises?
That they don't like living in that house?
Or they don't like the house?
Or they don't like the others living with them in that house?
By the time they find the reason behind their anger or malady the house would need change of doors, etc., many times over.

This type of behaviour gets to everyone around and in no time all of them will be banging on doors, etc., if only to prove the 'law of action and reaction being equal and opposite' to be 100% right always. So it becomes a habit for everyone at home to bang things and they feel its ok behaviour too. I notice very young kids too indulge in this kind of behaviour.
If one should let out anger then its best to close the door, get hold of two sticks and a pillow to beat upon. Or a punching bag?
The danger is in carrying such behaviour outside one's home, say in the school, college or workplace where such things may not be always tolerated. Its not ok to make loud noises inside and outside homes.

May God give such people enough sense to control their tempers, disappointments and frustrations in a better way. What if all of us did this kind of thing to vent out our anger on each other? We need to be civil to each other. We need to control ourselves. We need to live in a society and among people.
Gandhiji once wrote, 'Temper is precious, don't lose it'.

Cheers!
Mahalakshmi.