Someone suggested this as the 'Topic of the day' - " Whats is definition of "Good husband" Specially now in global environment ". smile emoticon expecting response from lovely ladies of some group on FaceBook.
There's no 'good' husband or wife. Desh-Kaal-Patra keeps changing according to culture-times-individual.
Marriage is a beautiful dream until one gets married.
It is like buying a mango thinking it will be sweet. Only after its bought, cut and eaten can we tell whether it's sweet. Or buying a coconut. Only after it's broken will it reveal whether it's kernal is tender or tough, has water or not, is edible or rotten. These do not come with a label of guarantee. We take it and make it suitable by adjusting a little here, a little there. These are modern times too when one can return it back instead of cursing fate and suffering it as one's destiny until it's The End for one.
A couple who understand, accept that both will evolve and change over a period of time due to circumstances, preferences, interests and compulsions. Both have to allow the other space to pursue interests and not be judgemental all the time.
With age, both should take up hobbies like an art, reading the scriptures, travelling if one is able to, volunteering work somewhere, so that both don't remain in each other's company all the time to start the game of nit-picking. Above all, that trust and faith in each other as well as upholding it at all times.
These lines are written 'After' going through decades of marriage! 'Before' marriage it's different set of parameters altogether! Should be handsome, tall, very understanding, be like a friend, treat his lady with respect, last but not least should earn well or be endowed with enough property to spend for at least till great grandson generation!
Alas only after marriage, does one know the 'why me?' of it all.
As the marriage progresses, if the husband falls sick, wife will think a husband should not be sick, if he is not earning well enough, a wife will think a husband should earn well to support her and the kids, what one does not have one yearns for.
Wish is one thing, what life deals is another thing.
This gnyanam comes after many decades if at all we are willing to learn life's lessons without prejudice.
There's no 'good' husband or wife. Desh-Kaal-Patra keeps changing according to culture-times-individual.
Marriage is a beautiful dream until one gets married.
It is like buying a mango thinking it will be sweet. Only after its bought, cut and eaten can we tell whether it's sweet. Or buying a coconut. Only after it's broken will it reveal whether it's kernal is tender or tough, has water or not, is edible or rotten. These do not come with a label of guarantee. We take it and make it suitable by adjusting a little here, a little there. These are modern times too when one can return it back instead of cursing fate and suffering it as one's destiny until it's The End for one.
A couple who understand, accept that both will evolve and change over a period of time due to circumstances, preferences, interests and compulsions. Both have to allow the other space to pursue interests and not be judgemental all the time.
With age, both should take up hobbies like an art, reading the scriptures, travelling if one is able to, volunteering work somewhere, so that both don't remain in each other's company all the time to start the game of nit-picking. Above all, that trust and faith in each other as well as upholding it at all times.
These lines are written 'After' going through decades of marriage! 'Before' marriage it's different set of parameters altogether! Should be handsome, tall, very understanding, be like a friend, treat his lady with respect, last but not least should earn well or be endowed with enough property to spend for at least till great grandson generation!
Alas only after marriage, does one know the 'why me?' of it all.
As the marriage progresses, if the husband falls sick, wife will think a husband should not be sick, if he is not earning well enough, a wife will think a husband should earn well to support her and the kids, what one does not have one yearns for.
Wish is one thing, what life deals is another thing.
This gnyanam comes after many decades if at all we are willing to learn life's lessons without prejudice.
